Event Details
WHERE
As You Like It Eugene
1655 W. 11th Ave
Eugene, OR, 97402
WHEN
Tuesday, November 2nd, @ 6:00pm-8:00pm PST
COST
$11-33.00/person (We don't want money to be a barrier to access this! so please pay what you can.)
What Is This Workshop About?
Join Jamie and Lady Vivus for Awesome Pleasure, a workshop on how to ask for what you want and say no to what you don't!
At one time or another we've all said yes when we wanted to say no, no when we wanted to say yes, and maybe when we really didn't mean it. In one way or another we've pushed someone's boundaries, invaded their personal space or had ours invaded. We’ve experienced conversations or touch we didn’t want or gone in for some kind of touch without waiting, or accepted a lukewarm yes.
This is a fun practical class where we work with actual situations sharing useful tools for bettering our boundaries and how well we perceive and support the boundaries of others. We'll through the three parts of the pleasure talk: Connection, Safety and Pleasure; followed by an opportunity to practice. As with all of our workshops, you can always opt out of any activity at any time.
During this workshop, we’ll:
- Talk about what a boundary is and where we usually set them versus where we would like to set them
- Learn how to say "no" clearly and how to respond to hearing one.
- Learn how to explore safely using negotiation, changing our 'yes' to a 'no' when needed, while giving and getting feedback
- Learn more about trauma responses and embodiment
- Consider the types of connections we desire
- Discuss safety needs
- Have opportunities to practice and discuss with other participants
About Your Hosts:
Lady Vivus (she/her) is a spiritually & culturally driven sex-positive educator & organizer. Lady Vivus is a Professional Switchinatrix, hucow & Bootblack, & is a self-proclaimed “Jewish American Pleasure Princess” & Dairy Queen. She hopes to inspire others to enjoy sexuality & dynamics from an authentic place, as well as help folx find their spiritual place with leather & healing within it. Her love of community, education, & sharing ideas with other sex-positive folx is insatiable. Lady V has taught all over the United States for organizations & conferences such as Kinkfest, Southeast Leatherfest, Sex Positive World, SubSpace, & more! Lady V currently serves as an Advocacy Board Member for Sex Positive World & proudly helps facilitate their education. Lady V has also served her community by facilitating public health events, most recently being K!nk Out Loud in partnership with The Equi Institute & Multnomah County Public Health Dept. She also serves as the lead organizer for the Salem Munch. She also currently serves as a resident bootblack for the Portland Eagle & formerly 50 Shades of STFU, as well as Jiffy Kink play parties. View her work at LadyVivus.com!
Jamie Cawelti (Gwynny) (she/they) is the executive director of Sex Positive Portland and SPW; she has been hosting classes, intimacy workshops and speed dating since 2018. She is polyamorous, queer, and kinky, with a love of shibari/rope bondage. She leads discussion groups and classes on relationships of all sizes, orientations, and dynamics. Her background is in communications, video production, and marketing & or social media @famous.alter.ego @infamous.alter.ego
REFUND POLICY *Please note, all ticket sales are final, however, tickets are transferable to another party in the event that you are not able to attend. Ticket transfers must be approved and processed prior to the day of the event .